The recent controversy of a picture a mom posted on Facebook is EVERYWHERE. People always say “Wow you’re a Mom, you don’t look like a Mom.” Or my favorite, you look great….for a mom. Moms now are changing that stereotype and I LOVE it! Just because I’m a mom doesn’t mean I have to be out of shape and live in sweat pants. Of course I can if I wanted to and that’s my choice. But it’s annoying that people are surprised when a Mom puts on a dress. People are offended when a mom doesn’t look like a mom is suppose to. Who decided that anyway? Well I’m just here to say if you choose to not take care of yourself and stay in sweat pants, please don’t blame it on being a mom. Yes not everyone will look like her (pictured below); I’m a perfect example thanks to those love things called stretch marks. But I’m taking care of myself and no longer making excuses. I can be in shape. So again, what’s your excuse?
I know this questions sounds ridiculously harsh but let me explain. Every where I go I see Moms that look like they just don’t care. Maybe it’s just where I live? I don’t know but sheesh! It’s bad! Most moms I see have on their husband’s shirt and/or hoodie along with jeans that don’t fit properly. I think most women just forget about themselves once they have kids. Not only in their appearance but their identity. Now don’t get me wrong, I am a woman. I know there are those fat or just plain lazy days. But I do know it takes about the same effort to reach for your own proper fitting shirt over your husbands. Now I’m not writing this to bash Moms or women in any way. I actually would like to do the opposite. I think as moms we don’t have to loose our identity. Yes you! You can look fantastic, feel great, and keep in touch with your own identity. Yes, you CAN have a girls night. You CAN have a break and not automatically be a horrible Mom. You just have to find a balance.
I see it over and over. I see Moms who are totally CONSUMED with their children in a unhealthy way. I love my son and would do anything for him but I don’t have to sacrifice my identity to do that. You can still be the person you are and continue to grow while being a mother. Isn’t that great? I think more women should realize that. Instead I see women who completely forget about themselves and their lives become their child(ren). Yes, that does happen to an extent…BUT you can still treat yourself, get away, and do things you love. Love yourself AND your children. Don’t loose yourself. Now get rid of all those Mom jeans and get dolled up! Heck, maybe even have a drink! 😉
It’s a dark picture but I have on a grey t-shit with a black blazer and my favorite dark skinny jeans. And of course my black boots. I’ll be glad when it warms up so I can break out the wedges. Ahhh, spring! This is a two day old twist out, I didn’t re-twist it so it’s a little crazy but I like it haha!
Day 56: My son looked adorable yesterday so I thought I’d share his outfit as well! 😀 The shirt and skinny jeans are from Old Navy. They have amazing prices and great quality! And don’t forget his awesome black converses (best hand-me-downs EVER). Enjoy!
On Valentine’s Day this year, I was reminded of how much pressure society puts on this one day. Both men and women complain about not having a valentine to make their day special. Why wait on someone else to make any day special? Valentine’s Day in my opinion should just be fun. If you have a spouse/significant other, enjoy each other but don’t let this one day be the only time you show how much you love each other. And no valentine, you ask? Go out with friends! There’s way too much fun to have to sit at home depressed over not getting flowers. Buy some yourself! 😉 What did I do? I had dinner & wine then went to see Side Effects with two of my friends and it was perfect!